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Often as a new month approaches and I am considering what I will share in my blogpost, I reflect back on the past month and the lessons it has brought me. Early last month, I listened to a podcast with Bishop Robert Barron titled How to Discern God’s Will for Your Life. I was drawn to its message and shared it with many of my friends. You can find it on You Tube.

Bishop Barron suggests that when making decisions, we keep in mind first and foremost:

What is the path of greatest love?

Or, what is the demand of love in this present situation? How would Jesus walk through this? What path opens up my capacity to love? While these are excellent questions, they are not answered easily or quickly. But I believe they are a very wise place to start. Surrendering to God with a willingness to pray, to wait, and to watch for God’s movement.

In situations involving others, my mind naturally wants to go to what I think the other person or persons may be thinking or wanting. Next, I add what I think or want, and soon my mind gets very messy or cluttered. Fortunately, God’s grace breaks in and tenderly reminds me to go to Him and ask Him to sort this all out—What does God want? How does God see this all? Ultimately, I want what God wants. If I let God calm my spirit and give Him time with the situation, clarity will come. God will grant me His wisdom.  I want to keep in mind that we all are continually changing. There is always more to know about another person, about myself, and about any given situation.

I’m reminded of the well-known Scripture passage, 1 Corinthians 13, that starts with:

Love is patient, love is kind…

And ends with the promise:

Love prevails. God prevails.

That is what I truly desire. God and Love.

God is so patient and tender with all of my shortcomings. I want to be that way with others. In a recent conversation with my youngest daughter, I shared that as I age, I’m drawn to friends who want the best for me and allow me to walk through the process of discerning what that “best” is. And I want to do the same for others. I believe the way of love gives us all that freedom.

“Trying to change other people is futile, foolish, and
certainly not loving.”    Courage to Change

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image.”
Thomas Merton

So this month, let there be love and let it begin with me.


  • Jenna Mangold
    Posted September 1, 2021 at 6:47 pm

    What a beautiful message.

    • Cherryonline
      Posted September 7, 2021 at 6:59 pm

      Thank you Jenna!!

  • William Hamilton
    Posted September 1, 2021 at 7:28 pm

    As I read your stuff I am reminded how blessed I am to know you

    If I focus on God and God’s love I will be OK

    • Cherryonline
      Posted September 1, 2021 at 7:39 pm

      Thank you so much Bill. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment!!! Blessings to you!!

  • trishfehr
    Posted September 2, 2021 at 2:14 pm

    This is lovely and challenging-humbling.

    • Cherryonline
      Posted September 7, 2021 at 6:58 pm

      Thank you Trish.

  • Ann
    Posted September 5, 2021 at 11:21 am

    Just what I needed to read and hear. Love Thomas Merton.

    • Cherryonline
      Posted September 7, 2021 at 6:58 pm

      Thank you Ann.

  • Sr. Betty Jean Haverback
    Posted September 7, 2021 at 2:42 pm

    Greetings Cherry, These months do seem to roll ’round quickly…just read your latest blogpost and was struck with how most of us follow the example and words of Jesus,would indeed desire to “know” God’s will for us—“Thy will be done”—and discerning this is truly a life time’s work. Narrowing it down to that one question of “What is the path of greatest love?” certainly can help one focus on WWJD (What would Jesus do) and certainly takes on the individual emphasis that Jesus always showed to those he met, cured, and interacted. The willingness to pray/wait/watch for God’s movement takes on the discipline of any true follower of Jesus—go to the mountain—follow God’s work of creation of letting those He loves be perfectly themselves.Your quote of Thomas Merton is so applicable and how in this society and culture there is that ” twisting to fit into our own image”. Consequently, good to connect with you, Cherry and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Hope and pray all is going well for you and yours. I’m looking to cataract surgery Thursday, everyone says “it’s a piece of cake”, so counting on it to be so, now, it’s the eyedrops from three meds for three times a day…from one who takes a multi-vitamin once a day…this is quite a challenge unto itself!😮 Peace and All Good, SBJ

    • Cherryonline
      Posted September 7, 2021 at 6:58 pm

      Thank you so much for reading Sister Betty Jean and for your thoughts as well. Peace to you too.

  • Daniel Schuetz
    Posted November 19, 2021 at 3:52 pm

    Thank you, Cherry, appreciate you so much!

    Hope you and David are well!

    Is the weather pretty nice this time of year?




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